No, not of the dark. And no, not of heights. And no, not even of spiders.
I mean of... well, everything.
Every little thing we do, we are always afraid. We do not always notice it, but we are. We watch our words, afraid of offending someone or saying something that might cause someone's opinion of us to change, even if only by a tiny little bit. We are constantly biting our tongues to keep from saying the wrong thing, the wrong words.
We are always walking on our tiptoes, watching our thoughts, and biting our tongues.
We are scared. We are always scared.
Scared to say or do the wrong thing. Scared of rejection. Scared of offending someone. Scared of letting someone see the real you.
Aren't we taught to grow up and overcome our fears? Don't they, our teachers, parents, and relatives, teach us to not be scared? Then why are we stuck in this state of constant fear? It is hypocritical, too. They teach us that we should not be afraid, that we should see the light past our fears, and all the while they are sitting there in the corner, shaking in their boots over saying something wrong, not living up to expectations, or screwing up.
I think that is the biggest fear of all, screwing up.
But "screwing up" covers so much. There is so much we can screw up. We can screw up something as minor as a quiz and as major as someone's life. But I think we are all afraid of simply appearing as a screw up in the eyes of someone we hold near and dear. Losing respect, we always fear. We want respect nearly as much as we want love.
Love.
That is another big fear isn't it?
The fear of losing love. The fear of falling in love. The fear of never finding love.
There is always something to fear in the game of love. "Am I doing something wrong? What if they do not like me? What is wrong with me? I wonder if they do like me? I hate being alone. Will I always be alone? I do not want to be like this, alone, forever. I could not take that. I cannot take this. I will never find love, I know it. Maybe love is not meant for me. I am just another helpless case…"
Once we learn the word and notion of love, isn't it practically always in our mind somewhere? In some manner or another, I mean? And from that notion stems all of these fears that multiply every day…
… or maybe that's just me…
Anyway, I hate how afraid we all are.
We bottle up so much. So many feelings are hidden and kept secret forever, swept under a rug in our minds and left there for eternity. The honest words are usually the ones swept away to save us from screwing up, and the false words always tend to prevail.
It is sad, isn't it?
Shouldn't it be the other way around?
I think it should.
I am not scared enough to keep from saying all that lol.
Eccentrically Yours,
Lynn
Don't you hate how afraid we are?
No, not of the dark. And no, not of heights. And no, not even of spiders.
I mean of... well, everything.
Every little thing we do, we are always afraid. We do not always notice it, but we are. We watch our words, afraid of offending someone or saying something that might cause someone's opinion of us to change, even if only by a tiny little bit. We are constantly biting our tongues to keep from saying the wrong thing, the wrong words.
We are always walking on our tiptoes, watching our thoughts, and biting our tongues.
We are scared. We are always scared.
Scared to say or do the wrong thing. Scared of rejection. Scared of offending someone. Scared of letting someone see the real you.
Aren't we taught to grow up and overcome our fears? Don't they, our teachers, parents, and relatives, teach us to not be scared? Then why are we stuck in this state of constant fear? It is hypocritical, too. They teach us that we should not be afraid, that we should see the light past our fears, and all the while they are sitting there in the corner, shaking in their boots over saying something wrong, not living up to expectations, or screwing up.
I think that is the biggest fear of all, screwing up.
But "screwing up" covers so much. There is so much we can screw up. We can screw up something as minor as a quiz and as major as someone's life. But I think we are all afraid of simply appearing as a screw up in the eyes of someone we hold near and dear. Losing respect, we always fear. We want respect nearly as much as we want love.
Love.
That is another big fear isn't it?
The fear of losing love. The fear of falling in love. The fear of never finding love.
There is always something to fear in the game of love. "Am I doing something wrong? What if they do not like me? What is wrong with me? I wonder if they do like me? I hate being alone. Will I always be alone? I do not want to be like this, alone, forever. I could not take that. I cannot take this. I will never find love, I know it. Maybe love is not meant for me. I am just another helpless case…"
Once we learn the word and notion of love, isn't it practically always in our mind somewhere? In some manner or another, I mean? And from that notion stems all of these fears that multiply every day…
… or maybe that's just me…
Anyway, I hate how afraid we all are.
We bottle up so much. So many feelings are hidden and kept secret forever, swept under a rug in our minds and left there for eternity. The honest words are usually the ones swept away to save us from screwing up, and the false words always tend to prevail.
It is sad, isn't it?
Shouldn't it be the other way around?
I think it should.
I am not scared enough to keep from saying all that lol.
Eccentrically Yours,
Lynn
"There is no darker place than the depths of your very own soul. Drink deeply from within, awaken, and be free."
Yes, it is a choice to be brave or live in fear....BUT that does nto mean that we do nto feel the fear. We simply choose to brave through it. To overcome it. Some people choose to let their fear rule their lives, but that is their choice to do so. Even if one is brave, one still fears. There is a difference between being brave and conquering a fear and actually feeling the fear.
I think so many are totally misunderstanding what I said. That is okay though, at least some are reading it and hopefully taking some food for thoguht from it. I was relating more to the abstract thought of the feeling of fear, not the actual overcoming or braving them...not the fear of things like spiders or heights or airplanes...merely the fear inside us that leads us to make a decision...to make that choice between fight and flight, so to speak.
I constantly ponder things. Simple things or complex, it makes no difference to me. I just simply wanted to share a thought I had.That was why I posted this.
Please continue to enjoy reading my 'deep' thoughts. I do not seek arguement, just sharing of opinions, but I also want to make sure my own is clearly stated in a way that I feel none are misunderstanding it.
Yes, it is a choice to be brave or live in fear....BUT that does nto mean that we do nto feel the fear. We simply choose to brave through it. To overcome it. Some people choose to let their fear rule their lives, but that is their choice to do so. Even if one is brave, one still fears. There is a difference between being brave and conquering a fear and actually feeling the fear.
I think so many are totally misunderstanding what I said. That is okay though, at least some are reading it and hopefully taking some food for thoguht from it. I was relating more to the abstract thought of the feeling of fear, not the actual overcoming or braving them...not the fear of things like spiders or heights or airplanes...merely the fear inside us that leads us to make a decision...to make that choice between fight and flight, so to speak.
I constantly ponder things. Simple things or complex, it makes no difference to me. I just simply wanted to share a thought I had.That was why I posted this.
Please continue to enjoy reading my 'deep' thoughts. I do not seek arguement, just sharing of opinions, but I also want to make sure my own is clearly stated in a way that I feel none are misunderstanding it.
"There is no darker place than the depths of your very own soul. Drink deeply from within, awaken, and be free."
@ SevenWhispers *claps* very well said and so very true!
One of my other favorite quotes is one by Jim Morrison, “We fear violence less than our own feelings. Personal, private, solitary pain is more terrifying than what anyone else can inflict.”
@ SevenWhispers *claps* very well said and so very true!
One of my other favorite quotes is one by Jim Morrison, “We fear violence less than our own feelings. Personal, private, solitary pain is more terrifying than what anyone else can inflict.”
"There is no darker place than the depths of your very own soul. Drink deeply from within, awaken, and be free."
This is how I choose to live, also. It IS a choice--to be brave or live in fear. I, for one, would rather take the former. I have found that some people think of me as too bold in my opinion and they tend to steer clear of me. That's okay. For every person that shies away, another dozen are there cheering me on. I think there are alot more of us brave souls out there than the "politically correct" members of society would lead us to believe. We only have one shot at this life. Live it like you mean it...or, as my yoga instructor would say: "It's your life, show up for it!"
Quoting Tinkerbelle
Lynn I broke the mold. Im not afraid of anything. Not of living, or of loving.... My father taught me to tell it like it is in a measured way to stand tall and fear nothing. And i dont.......dont you either. Live life to the max and love like its the first time
Quoting Tinkerbelle
Lynn I broke the mold. Im not afraid of anything. Not of living, or of loving.... My father taught me to tell it like it is in a measured way to stand tall and fear nothing. And i dont.......dont you either. Live life to the max and love like its the first time
This is how I choose to live, also. It IS a choice--to be brave or live in fear. I, for one, would rather take the former. I have found that some people think of me as too bold in my opinion and they tend to steer clear of me. That's okay. For every person that shies away, another dozen are there cheering me on. I think there are alot more of us brave souls out there than the "politically correct" members of society would lead us to believe. We only have one shot at this life. Live it like you mean it...or, as my yoga instructor would say: "It's your life, show up for it!"
No .... seriously I do not fear. I am quite aware that my strong and forthright opinions are not to everyones taste and im prepared for that. I allways try not to be mean to others but if others are too sensitive then that isnt my problem. Love me as I am or leave me alone I know I sound harsh and maybe I am but im also a realist knowing its better to be who you are than supplicate yourself and be who you are not . I have no fears about the weather, jobs or anything else. I take what life throws at me on the chin in the full knowledge that I have been taught to roll with the punches. I am not afraid of change. Situations arise which may not be ideal for me and change the way things are. Rather than fear them, I deal with them and turn them into positives by sheer strength of will. I do however understand fear, I just dont allow it into my life.
No .... seriously I do not fear. I am quite aware that my strong and forthright opinions are not to everyones taste and im prepared for that. I allways try not to be mean to others but if others are too sensitive then that isnt my problem. Love me as I am or leave me alone I know I sound harsh and maybe I am but im also a realist knowing its better to be who you are than supplicate yourself and be who you are not . I have no fears about the weather, jobs or anything else. I take what life throws at me on the chin in the full knowledge that I have been taught to roll with the punches. I am not afraid of change. Situations arise which may not be ideal for me and change the way things are. Rather than fear them, I deal with them and turn them into positives by sheer strength of will. I do however understand fear, I just dont allow it into my life.
No .... seriously I do not fear. I am quite aware that my strong and forthright opinions are not to everyones taste and im prepared for that. I allways try not to be mean to others but if others are too sensitive then that isnt my problem. Love me as I am or leave me alone I know I sound harsh and maybe I am but im also a realist knowing its better to be who you are than supplicate yourself and be who you are not . I have no fears about the weather, jobs or anything else. I take what life throws at me on the chin in the full knowledge that I have been taught to roll with the punches. I am not afraid of change. Situations arise which may not be ideal for me and change the way things are. Rather than fear them, I deal with them and turn them into positives by sheer strength of will. I do however understand fear, I just dont allow it into my life.
No .... seriously I do not fear. I am quite aware that my strong and forthright opinions are not to everyones taste and im prepared for that. I allways try not to be mean to others but if others are too sensitive then that isnt my problem. Love me as I am or leave me alone I know I sound harsh and maybe I am but im also a realist knowing its better to be who you are than supplicate yourself and be who you are not . I have no fears about the weather, jobs or anything else. I take what life throws at me on the chin in the full knowledge that I have been taught to roll with the punches. I am not afraid of change. Situations arise which may not be ideal for me and change the way things are. Rather than fear them, I deal with them and turn them into positives by sheer strength of will. I do however understand fear, I just dont allow it into my life.
I think you misunderstood my post lol. I was merely doing my usual philosophical questioning on the intricities of the human animal. Pondering...always pondering lol. I, like you, am not afraid to say what I think or feel...BUT I do get afraid that what I say will offend someone. I become afraid they will no longer like me because I am too straight forward. Afraid they may not like me because they do not like what I had to say and their opinion differs from mine. Even though I never voice that fear to them, it is still there; lingering in a dark corner of my mind. Do you not fear too? You say you do not, but everyone fears. Even though you live life, you fight for things, you say what you think... It can be something like fear of losing a job in this horrible economy where all the jobs are moving overseas. It can be a fear of making sure there is enough to eat when cash is a little tight. It can be a fear of losing someone dear to us. We may fear the weather when it becomes a raging inferno. We may fear our own mortality when we have a near miss. We may fall in love, but fear losing it. Not everyone fears falling in love, but some are. Not everyone is afraid to lose love because they are afraid to fall in love in the first place and do not take a chance to risk losing love...but then again, why are they afraid to fall in love? Fear of losing it when they find it would make plausible sense..so it becomes a sort of vicious circle for some. My point was, despite the fact that we may not notice it, we do fear things everyday, even if it is something small. I was merely pointing out the bigger fears most common among many people, but there are still smaller everyday fears. These fears, we may not show them or admit them to ourselves. Hence the sweeping under the rug. We fear showing our full emotions to someone because we fear making ourselves too vulnerable to that person. Not everyone is dishonest, but we do sometimes soften the blows of what we say out of fear of hurting someone. possibly? Despite these fears we still carry on, live life, we swallow these fears and hide them. Unfortunately, some also let their fears rule their lives.
I think you misunderstood my post lol. I was merely doing my usual philosophical questioning on the intricities of the human animal. Pondering...always pondering lol. I, like you, am not afraid to say what I think or feel...BUT I do get afraid that what I say will offend someone. I become afraid they will no longer like me because I am too straight forward. Afraid they may not like me because they do not like what I had to say and their opinion differs from mine. Even though I never voice that fear to them, it is still there; lingering in a dark corner of my mind. Do you not fear too? You say you do not, but everyone fears. Even though you live life, you fight for things, you say what you think... It can be something like fear of losing a job in this horrible economy where all the jobs are moving overseas. It can be a fear of making sure there is enough to eat when cash is a little tight. It can be a fear of losing someone dear to us. We may fear the weather when it becomes a raging inferno. We may fear our own mortality when we have a near miss. We may fall in love, but fear losing it. Not everyone fears falling in love, but some are. Not everyone is afraid to lose love because they are afraid to fall in love in the first place and do not take a chance to risk losing love...but then again, why are they afraid to fall in love? Fear of losing it when they find it would make plausible sense..so it becomes a sort of vicious circle for some. My point was, despite the fact that we may not notice it, we do fear things everyday, even if it is something small. I was merely pointing out the bigger fears most common among many people, but there are still smaller everyday fears. These fears, we may not show them or admit them to ourselves. Hence the sweeping under the rug. We fear showing our full emotions to someone because we fear making ourselves too vulnerable to that person. Not everyone is dishonest, but we do sometimes soften the blows of what we say out of fear of hurting someone. possibly? Despite these fears we still carry on, live life, we swallow these fears and hide them. Unfortunately, some also let their fears rule their lives.
"There is no darker place than the depths of your very own soul. Drink deeply from within, awaken, and be free."
Lynn I broke the mold. Im not afraid of anything. Not of living, or of loving.... My father taught me to tell it like it is in a measured way to stand tall and fear nothing. And i dont.......dont you either. Live life to the max and love like its the first time
Lynn I broke the mold. Im not afraid of anything. Not of living, or of loving.... My father taught me to tell it like it is in a measured way to stand tall and fear nothing. And i dont.......dont you either. Live life to the max and love like its the first time
